How To Bed Share Safely With A Newborn (Co-Sleeping With Your Baby)

The Bed: To Share or not to Share?

Before we worry about how to bedshare safely the above question must be addressed. Sharing the bed with your newborn: is it ideal or does it do more harm than good? A lot of talk has gone, and keeps on going, about the whole topic that it’s almost impossible to come up with a proper conclusion.

Regardless of whether you’re a fan of having your child sleep in the same space as you, we here at Babybalu will tell you all about how to bed share safely.

We also recommend reading about tips for good night’s sleep to ensure that you get enough sleep while bearing a child.

What’s With all the Fuss About Sharing the bed?

baby and mother sharing the bed
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Like we said, there’s been a lot of debate regarding this whole subject. Some parents plan right from the beginning to have their kids in a separate space, or even a separate room, during bedtime in order to train them early on.

Others, however, ease into it and aren’t against the whole idea of having baby share the bed with mom. Even still, there are those who don’t even plan on bedtime setups, determining their decision based on what makes baby comfortable.

But, the question remains? What’s the problem with having baby and mom sleep in the same bed?

Now, most of these worries come from concerns about sleeping in general, regardless of the setup. After all, sleep is one of the most important activities that both mom and baby must do, especially early on when one’s body has yet to recover from the pains of childbirth and the other having a body that’s still in the middle of development, respectively.

As such, the possible problems that could come from the general act of sleeping coupled with all the rather unflattering effects of sharing the bed amount to a whole lot of worry. We won’t even be surprised to find out if you’ve had sleepless nights just worrying about this!

However, we’re here to tell you that there’s really not much to worry about when it comes to sleeping in the same bed with your little bundle of joy. So, allow us to shed some light into this matter.

Also Read: When Does Cluster Feeding Start?

Do Babies Really Like Sleeping In The Same Bed As Mom?

We’re pretty sure we don’t have to tell you this, but every baby has its own preference, rhythm, and routine. Depending on your child, he or she may be the kind that could easily settle in their crib right beside your bed.

On the other hand, there are those little tykes that just can’t seem to get enough of mom that they should be lulled to sleep in her arms. However, since we’re on the topic of sharing the bed with your little bundle of joy, we’re going to talk about the latter.

Now, like we said, sharing the bed isn’t that big of a deal as other worrywarts would tell you; it’s pretty normal, especially during the first few months. What you need to concern yourself with, however, is how to properly do it.

Mom’s Guide On How To Bed Share Safely

mom and baby bed sharing
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It is not uncommon for moms to doze off in the middle of nursing or lulling baby to sleep in the night. Now, you might kick yourself in the head for having done this before, and you’re not completely wrong to do so.

But, just as with most things, there’s a way that you can help yourself get some shuteye while keeping baby comfortable and, most of all safe during these instances.

For one, keeping some blankets and pillows beside you and your baby during this time is very ideal. That’s just the beginning of it, though.

Don’t worry. Help is just a click away!

Whether you’re a mom who’s looking to brush her knowledge on sharing your bed with your infant or you’re a new mother that needs some guidance, the best way we could help you in this regard is by referring you to some expert opinion. So, here are some we highly recommend:

And here are a few tips from us here at Babybalu

We’re well aware that there are times that the stress may get to you, which leads you to place the blame on the baby for not having a bedtime routine that matches yours or, sometimes, for not being able to sleep at all.

In fact, this occurrence has become pretty common that some people even refer to their little bundles of joy as bad babies. Well, we’re telling you right now that you should throw that idea right out the window. On the opposite side of things, there are some who blame you, the parent, for not being able to properly establish a bedtime setup.

That, too, is something that you should not let into your head.

The truth is, there’s no one way to create the perfect bedtime setting, as most people would bandy about: it all depends on none other than you and your child. So, the best advice – the only advice worth noting, if we’re being frank– is to find which setup suits you and your little bundle of joy best.

Don’t stick to a strict regimen, since the two of you could always change at some point. And, lastly, if you and baby can’t seem to agree, then you should learn to find the right compromise. After all, we are dealing with a relationship between a mother and her child here, so it’s only right that we develop this deep bond.

To the mothers out there!

Yes, raising a child could be challenging (more so if this is your first time), but remember that your own opinions and preferences matter more than what other people might say. Sure, there’s no harm in getting a little help or advice from others, but in the end, the connection you have with your own child is something that only the two of you can understand.

We hope that these tips help you to bed share safely. Don’t be too hard on yourself and especially on baby. You’ll get it right!